Surrogacy – Pros and Cons for intended parents
Surrogacy can be a very fulfilling experience, both for the intended parents and for the person carrying the pregnancy. And yet, surrogacy also demands a significant commitment from both sides, and it’s important to weigh up all the pros and cons before getting into the process.
In this article, we’ll review the pros and cons of surrogacy for the intended parents.
Below are the pros for surrogacy for the intended parents:
- Surrogacy is a way to make the dream of becoming a parent come true.
- Surrogacy makes the family complete. For those who have struggled with infertility, same-sex couples, or those who have medical conditions that don’t allow for a normal pregnancy, surrogacy is often the answer to many years of unsuccessful attempts to build a family.
- Surrogacy allows there to be genetic ties to the baby of one or both parents. A biological connection is an important parameter for many parents.
- In some cases, a significant connection is forged between the surrogate and the intended families. Many of the intended parents become close to the surrogate and her family during the process and develop meaningful relationships that can last a long time.
- Surrogacy is a process in which the expectations must be absolutely clear. There is a binding contract that lists everyone’s expectations and it must be signed before transferring the embryo so that everyone knows exactly what to expect during the surrogacy process. After the child is born, the child is issued an identity card and a court order detailing the legal rights of the intended parents.
- In surrogacy, necessity requires you to be involved. The intended parents can and often want to be involved in the surrogate’s pregnancy, to attend important appointments with the doctor, and want to be present at every important event, including transfer of the embryo and the birth of the baby.
- The chances of surrogacy being successful are higher. Surrogate women usually have a proven background of bringing healthy children into the world, which often makes surrogacy more successful than fertility treatments for the intended parents.
Below are the cons of surrogacy for the intended parents:
- Surrogacy can be complicated. It involves medical procedures and laws regarding surrogacy that can sometimes be a bit exhausting. It’s important to work with a professional and reliable company to make sure that the process is done safely and legally.
- Surrogacy is not cheap. Because of the number of people and services needed to get through the surrogacy journey successfully, surrogacy can be expensive.
- Surrogacy demands that you relinquish some control. The intended parents will have to be prepared to relinquish some things that are beyond their control (like how the surrogacy is managed, medical decisions, etc.), and will have to put their trust in the surrogate to carry the pregnancy successfully for them.
Surrogacy is not right for everyone. But most families built from surrogacy will agree that as soon as you hold the baby in your arms for the first time, the pros greatly outweigh the cons.